Breaking the News

Despite repeated attempts to find the mice this morning, Jaxon managed to get to school without finding the empty cage.

I worried all day, but many of your comments helped me feel confident in my plans to explain to Jaxon how I killed not one pet, but all nine of his pet mice. (*I keep reminding myself that people intentionally kill mice all the time).

Luckily, the babies were asleep when Jaxon came home from school. I sat him down with a juicebox and told him I had some bad news.

"The mice were outside all day and I found them dead after the party last night. It was too hot for them to live."

Then I told him that they were in heaven as a family and that it was okay for him to be sad. I reminded him of the glove/hand lesson about bodies/spirits.

He was sad, for about a minute. I helped him do some deep breathing.

Then he asked, "Where are their bodies?"

So, I told him the truth. "Their skin and fur starts to break apart, it's called decomposing, and it smells bad, so I threw them in the garbage." He seemed satisfied with that answer. I think a funeral would have been overkill (pun intended).

As Nate suggested, I asked him if he was sad because he worried about their being in pain when they died, or that he missed his pets. He said, "I'm sad they're dead."
Yep, that's how a 6 year old thinks.

A few more tears and deep breaths and I brought up the idea of a new pet.

Suddenly, Jaxon jumps up with a smile and says, "I want a hamster!"

That was the end of mourning for the mice.

It couldn't have gone any better if I'd planned it. I don't know what I was so worried about. He was waaaay more traumatized when the mouse was crushed by the wheel and spasming and convulsing in the cage. This was cake compared to that.

Thanks again to everybody for your helpful suggestions. I'm sorry that so many of you were traumatized by pet deaths. Perhaps this will be a good reference when you go through this in the future with your kids . . .


Last thought. I can't find any photos I took of the mice. How sad. I take photos all the time. I can't believe I didn't take photos of them.

Mouse Update: Please Respond

First the good news.

Our White Mouse (Sammy, the one revived by the vet) had 9 baby mice exactly 8 days ago.

Mark and the children have been very excited about it. The mother would occasionally take her day-0ld babies out of the nest and leave them around the cage (remember, she had brain damage). Mark would warm up a spoon and scoop them back into the nest.

Both parents have been kindly taking care of the mice babies and Jaxon is counting down the days until he can hold them. He shows them to everyone who comes over and talks about them constantly.

So, all our research suggests we not clean the cage for a few weeks or the mice parents could EAT their babies.
Thus, the smelly cage has not been cleaned for 2 weeks (nearly a week before she had the babies).

And, this morning I couldn't handle the smell in the boys' room, so I put the cage out on the back porch.
Mark had just hopped on a plane to NYC for a business trip, and the boys and I spent the day at my parents' house preparing for my sister's wedding open house. It went really well, except it was so hot today, nearly 95.

When I got back tonight at 8:30, I put the kids to bed then remembered to check on the mice.

They looked odd. All asleep, and rather oddly stiff.

Yes, they were dead.

DEAD!

Seven babies (two had died the first day or two) and the mom and dad.

I freaked out and called a friend over as a reinforcement. She watched as I cleaned out the cage, yes, I did accidentally drop one of the babies on the floor. It was really quite traumatic.

And, I'm so glad Jaxon can't read and doesn't know we have a blog.

So, I did talk to Mark briefly, and he sounds really upset with me. We discussed telling the children the truth, but I'd really rather tell them that I left the lid open and the mice escaped. Jaxon was already in tears tonight because he lost one of his new Bakugons at the open house (oh, and I was telling him about the Secret Garden, which we listened to on the way home). He sniffled himself to sleep.

This will break his heart and I have no idea what to do.
My BFF Leslie suggested that I not tell him before school, so I cleverly hid the cage in the garage, well in the van to be precise, because he might go in the garage in the morning.

Some suggestions I've heard:
Buy a new pet before he gets home: a puppy, a turtle, etc.
Make a funeral treat to take the edge off the bad news.

Any other ideas? What should I do?

Embarassing Personal Confession #4

This morning my friend, Teresa, and I went out with our kids.

She jogged and I roller bladed while we both pushed our kids in strollers.

I didn't have to slow down AT ALL. We were the same speed. Yep. Me, with wheels, and her with just her feet.

_sigh_

Is That So, Jaxon?

Costume Comic

After school on Monday:

Jaxon: "Vincent and Zander told me the Easter Bunny isn't real. It's just a costume."

Me: "Oh, really? What did you say?"

Jaxon: Pointing to a picture he's colored of the Easter Bunny (in it's regular bunny fur).
"They're wrong, Mom. See, there's no costume on the Easter Bunny."

Swordfish Story

Today Jaxon wore a new shirt that was bright green with tiny embroidered swordfish.

Me: "Did anybody say anything about your new shirt, Jaxon?"

Jaxon: "Mr. West liked it, but River made fun of it."

Me: "What did River say?"

Jaxon: in a mock taunting voice "Swordfish? I thought nobody had a swordfish on their shirt."

Deep Thought (though slightly depressing)

I was looking for a photo of me with red hair (October 2004, anyone?) and I came across this.
Jaxon and Baby Asher playing on the couch in early 2006.

I saw this photo and thought, "I loved this! I love being a mom!"

It gives me great hope to know that the dirty diapers and dirty floors, the screaming and fighting, the sleepless nights, and the needs to be held stresses of mothering will someday blend together to a nice fuzzy memory of motherhood.

But, then I remembered a study that shows that children remember more of the bad than the good. For example, some of my strongest childhood memories were about fear or disappoinment (some my parent's fault, and others not).

Thus the irony is that while I drag on day by day in the mire that is motherhood, I will one day have nice fuzzy memories to replace some of the agonizing daily endurances. On the other hand, my children, who live life mostly in ignorant bliss, will have nagging negative memories of childhood (hopefully with a few positive ones).

But perhaps I'm being overdramatic. Maybe there's more of a balance for all of us.

Easter!

A Little Perspective

Sometimes all I need to be happy, fulfilled woman is a little perspective.

Take today, for example (it's only half over, mind you).
Jaxon has the day off of school, so I took all the boys to the gym with me. On the way home we stopped and played at the park.

The weather was perfect 75 and a beautiful breeze. All 4 of us piled on the teeter-totter, and we giggled and played for a long time. Then the boys discovered the tire swing and I put all three of my boys (conicidentally wearing red shirts) on the tire swing and they had so much fun they would not get off. Lastly, we ended up at the twisty slide, making a four-person train (which was very slow, thanks to me).

It's easy during idyllic times like this to recognize what a wonderful life I have and how sweet my boys are. They are just adorable and I love watching them grow.

When we came home, I helped Jaxon and Asher color Easter eggs while practicing my photography. (Thanks, Nate for the recommendation. That book is awesome) Jaxon was absolutely thrilled. He's been talking about Easter eggs for months now.

Then Jaxon started talking about our pregnant mouse (remember the one who went to the ER vet?). He described the other mouse and how he was taking care of his wife because she was going to have babies. It was really sweet. He understands a lot about relationships and caring for creatures.

After getting my sister Cami off to the airport, we returned home to put Ash and Finn down for naps. Only Asher didn't want to go to bed.
So, he screamed and when I picked him up, he hit me with a metal spoon.
On the head.
Hard.
I cried and put him in his room (he was crying, too).

It's all about perspective.

Sometimes achieving good perspective is more difficult than other times.

For Heaven's Sake, it's a Mouse!

For those of you who missed this big change in our family, we recently acquired a mouse. (It was a wedding gift to Cami, some kind of inside joke from a friend). Well Cami didn't want the mouse and Jaxon did. So we got Sami, the mouse. Then we bought her a friend (no idea if it's male or female).

Last night, the mouses' wheel overturned on top of Sami, and when I took it off, she started convulsing and writhing. It looked really sad/disgusting. Mark was very upset with me (for ever consenting to allow animals in the house and for placing the cage in a child accessible location) and the kids (for bothering the poor mice). Jaxon was in hysterics because he thought the mouse was dying. He kept reassuring himself, "Her eyes are open, she's alive." It was really sad, but he prayed for the mouse's health that night. (he even prayed twice, to make sure he was clear on what he was asking for). It was really sweet.

Did I mention the new mouse escaped today? Well, I guess Asher let him out. But, we had to chase him around the room for 20 minutes until I finally caught him and put him back. It was really scary for me, I can't imagine how the mouse felt.

Back to the convulsing.
So, after I went to bed Mark took Sami the mouse to an Pet ER. No kidding.
The Vet told Mark it was a girl (we weren't sure before) and that she probably had brain damage, as she leans to the left when she walks. He gave her cortisone shots and some other treatment to the tune of $150.

Mark didn't get home until midnight.

He says that if we have to euthanize her, it will be $50.

Luckily, she's doing better today. She's walking around and has stopped convulsing.

Am I the only one who thinks that taking a mouse to the vet is crazy?

Mark says if we have a pet, we have to take care of it. And if he's going to do it, I guess that's just fine.

First Photo Shoot

I told my friends that I'm trying to start my own photography business.
So Danielle and her family offered to be my first guinea pigs.
Here's a few teasers and the rest are on my webalbum.





For those photography experts out there.
Nearly all my photos came out too dark. I took them during the day, how can I fix that?

Mark's Birthday

Mark turned the big 31 this year, so we didn't do anything extra special, just the regular special ;)

Our family tradition (which we get from my family of origin) is to wake up the birthday person with a doughnut and a candle, singing "Happy Birthday." This year I got it on film, and halfway through filming realized Jaxon was the only one singing, oops!, so I helped him finish the song.

Then Asher lovingly offers Daddy some tasty pastry, which he apparently did not want to eat at the crack of dawn while he was still 90% asleep.

I thought he did eat is, so I was a little surprised to find chocolate smeared on the sheets. Yep, that's what I get for continuing this tradition.

For the evening, our friends Meghan and Brandon came over with their two kids and had dinner with us. My dad and brother, David, came too.
Mark opened his present and got, exactly what he asked for! An I-pod Touch.
This is probably one of the only times I've actually gotten Mark what he asked for. I didn't buy it on craigslist or refurbished, I paid FULL PRICE. It was very hard for me to do that, so Mark knows how much I love him.

And I do.

Happy Birthday, Toad.

Uncle David's Visit

Mark's brother David spent his spring break with us last week. He's playing trumpet up at Snow College and came down to sunny Arizona to get away from the cold.

David will be doing a service mission for our church this summer in Nauvoo. He'll be playing trumpet in a brass band as part of the historical festivities that they do over there (I've never been, but maybe this summer is the time to go!). When he finishes there, he'll serve a two year full-time mission somewhere else (we don't know yet). So, we may or may not see him for 2.5 years. We're really glad he came to visit and took a lot of photos while he was here.

Here are some photos from the visit. We went to the zoo, Amazing Jakes, and the park (where Jaxon and David both rode scooters down a concrete hill and got scraped up). There are even a few photos of Mark and David's grandpa Barney who came to visit from San Diego for a few hours.

As you browse the photos, notice the number of times you see David texting. He and his friend Megan spent a lot of time conversing via text. It was to the point where he would check and respond in the middle of conversations, Wii games, you name it. So, imagine my amusement at this conversation.

Me: "So, Dave, is Megan your girlfriend?"
Dave: "No, we're just friends. I'm going on a mission and don't want to get too attached."
Me: "Attached? You text her every 3.5 seconds! I don't know how you could get MORE attached!"

*full disclosure (I am now friends with Megan on Facebook. I like her, she seems nice.)

Nightmare

Today was a stressful day. Not so unlike the day I recorded last month.

I was juggling too many things on my plate, searching library archives online, planning a retreat, returning calls, delivering old bras for a humanitarian project (I know?!), communicating about the change of time for the BBQ, deciding which of 7 events scheduled today we were actually going to attend, helping my sister through a health crisis, answering calls from Mark's work, reading to the kids, going to Costco, perparing for company coming into town Saturday, returning emails, Cub Scout drama, talking to Hemophilia Association folks about advocacy, reviews, and tonight's conference call, and taking Jaxon and his friend Ethan to soccer practice.

Which is actually where the nightmare begins.

Danielle and I switched Ethan for Asher and she took my food to the BBQ early while I took Finn and the kindergartners to soccer practice.

While watching the kids play, I got acquainted with the coach's wife, Wendy, with whom it turns out, I graduated from high school. We chatted about our kids and I occassionally chased Finn off the soccer field.

When it was time to go, I hurried because I parked in the way of some other cars and we were late for the BBQ (and I was thinking of half of the things on my list above). I hurried and folded up my blanket, grabbed two water bottles, both sets of soccer pictures (Jaxon is making a goofy face) and marched up the hill with my arms full and two soccer players behind me.

As we pulled out, I looked back urgently and when I saw that the boys were buckled in the back seat, I breathed a sigh of relief and headed 2.5 miles away to the park where we were having dinner.

Mark and I pulled in the parking lot at the same time. I turned around to hand Ethan his photos while the boys climbed out and saw

Finn's empty carseat.

I went into shock. I ordered the boys out quickly and told Mark that I left Finn at the soccer field.

It was the longest 5 minute drive of my life. I ran a red light at the very end just to see my baby a minute sooner.

Luckily, a few of the families were still there, just as I'd left them nearly 10 minutes earlier. They were chatting and helped Finn come my direction when I pulled up. Obviously, they were waiting for me to figure out what I had done and come claim my son. One father was really nice, "Don't feel bad, my wife's done this before. We've all been there."

My feelings of shame, desperation, embarrassment, and gratitude were overpowering and I choked back tears as I held my baby closer and with more tenderness than I have in a while.

As I buckled my happy little guy into his carseat, he started to fuss. He was hungry and wanted to be back toddling around in the grass, not confined to the car. It amused me that he was less happy now that I had him safely back in my car. I was infinitely more happy.

The lesson of the day?

Something's gotta give.

If I have so much on my plate that I can forget my own CHILD then I am overbooked, overscheduled, overcommitted, oversomething.

So, simplicity is where it's at for me.

Paring down.

Cutting back.

For me, my sanity, and my family.

Geez, it's been a long day.

On Emma Smith

I spoke tonight at Enrichment about Emma Smith, wife of Joseph Smith the founder of our church. I chose to speak about her as a woman whom I admired.
Our theme was the birthday of the Relief Society, so it was quite fitting. I was a little nervous about the polygamy part, but it went over pretty well.

When I signed up to speak about a woman that I admire, I immediately thought of Emma Smith.
In the last year, I've done a lot of research about her, and including seeing the new movie about her life.

Through this research, the woman I've come to know and love is much more remarkable and resilient that I had imagined.

First, I want to talk about Emma's remarkable qualities, then I will speak to her resilience in the face of difficult trials.

Here are some of the roles Emma played in her long and rich life. Of course there are too many roles and stories to share tonight, but I just wanted to highlight some of the ones that impressed me.

Hostess: As she and Joseph moved from state to state, and home to home, Emma was constantly at the mercy of strangers. Later, in Nauvoo, Emma would repay this kindness by offering room and board to strangers and friends for the vast majority of her life. As wife of the Prophet, Emma also held banquets for dozens and sometimes hundreds of people in her own home. With the cooking technology of the time, this was quite a feat.

Manager: Emma managed the household affairs, buying and selling property, dealing with lodgers and tenants, organizing and aiding the church in countless ways.

Founding Mother: As the founding mother of the Relief Society, Emma used the keys that Joseph had turned to her to aid the temporal needs of the citizens of Nauvoo and protect the moral integrity of the Saints.

Nurse: In the 1800s, healthcare was so poor, Emma found herself caring for the sick nearly full-time. The number of people that she nursed back to health throughout her life is astounding, and she put her own health at risk every time she did so.

Everyday Mother: One of my favorite stories about Emma as a mother shows me that motherhood doesn't change that much, even over nearly 200 years.
One day when Julia, the eldest Smith child, was small she started to throw a tantrum. Apparently her behavior was mimicking that of Sidney Rigdon's daughter, Lacy. Emma is reported to have told Julia sternly, "Don't you go Lacy Rigdon on me."

Faithful: Emma's testimony of the Golden Plates, which she was never permitted to see, and later the Book of Mormon never left her. She testified of the book as the word of God throughout her life.

Advocate: During the last few years of Joseph's life, his safety was always in question. Emma corresponded on many occasions with the governor of Illinois in an attempt to clear her husband's name from wrongdoing.

Trials.

Many of us know something about Emma's trials. Her father, Isaac Hale, never approved of her marriage to young Joseph Jr. This was devastating for Emma. But, despite her close relationship with her parents, Emma stayed by Joseph's side for 17 years, until Joseph's death at Carthage Jail.

Of her many trials, the most difficult for me to imagine is the death of 6 of her 11 children in infancy. Burying baby after baby must have been excruciating for Emma, but she continued strong in her role as wife and mother. In addition to the pain of children dying, almost every time her babies were born, Joseph was gone, or departing for a long trip.

Another difficult trial in Emma's life was dealing with Joseph's polygamy. Despite her testimony of her husband as a man of God when moved upon by the Spirit of the Lord, Emma never believed that polygamy in the church had divine origins.
The inner struggle must have been great as she vacillated then acquiesced to Joseph and then Hyrum's pleadings over her accepting plural marriage.
And while she did for a short time support the celestial marriages that Joseph entered into, she would later change her mind over this issue, and would refuse to follow Brigham Young out West as they openly practiced polygamy.

In this way, Emma demonstrated integrity in an extremely difficult situation. On a lighter note, many years after Joseph's death, a boarder asked her where the doctrine of plural wifery came from. Emma's answer illustrated her opinion on the issue, "Straight from hell, Madam."

After the Saints had left Nauvoo, Emma remarried a man named Lewis Bidamon. Her marriage was relatively happy, but later in life she discovered a child her husband had fathered out of wedlock. When the mother of this child could no longer afford to care for him, she brought him to Emma. At this, the kind Emma raised him as her own, eventually employing his mother to work in the house so she could be close to her son.
On her deathbed, Emma joined the hands of her husband and this woman in a sign of her approval of their marriage after Emma's death.

Still, Emma's love for Joseph lived on. With her children at her side, Emma's dying phrase was, "Joseph, I'm coming!"

I've been told that in LDS history, Emma Smith occassionally gets a bad reputation for not coming with the Saints to Utah, or encouraging her children to lead church her husband founded. In my study, however, I believe that Emma was as admirable as any woman could possibly be in her situation. Taking a very difficult life and making it full, Emma served and loved those around her with grace and gratitude. Poise and humility. Intelligence and integrity.

In many ways, Emma exemplified the Christlike ability to bring something good out of something evil.
So many of Emma's experiences would have crushed a weaker woman, and yet she not only persevered, but blossomed and helped those around her to blossom as well.


Emma is the great founding mother of the Relief Society and she deserves our honor and respect.

The First Goal

Every week before his soccer game, Mark reminds Jaxon that if he scores a goal (most weeks no one on the team scores a goal) that Jaxon can get pizza at the concession stand.

So just now, Jaxon called me from his soccer game.
Here's the conversation.

Jaxon: "Mom, my soccer game is over and guess what? I kicked the ball in the goal!"

Me: "No way!"

Jaxon: "Yes! But, they're out of pizza so we're going to look for something else to eat."

Me: "Ok, well I'm so proud of you, Jaxon!"

Jaxon: "I know Mom, I'm really proud of myself too."


You know what, Jaxon? That's all that really matters.

She's Married!

My baby sister got married yesterday in a sweet and simple ceremony.
It was very beautiful and I used my new camera to get a bunch of great shots!

Check out photos of the wedding

Congratulations Cami and Cliff!

(I'll totally help you start a fab new married blog!)

This is one of the funniest pictures. Finn pulled down the candy dish and was helping himself to the M&Ms.

Asher to the Rescue

I wore myself out today at Costco, pushing my kids and all of our food in a heavy cart. My medication had me light-headed and weak, and my stomach felt unsettled. The lines were long and I was grumpy.

As I got back to the car and unloaded the kids and food, I buckled Finn into his seat, then went around to get Asher buckled. But, like always, Asher was wandering around in the car even after I'd asked him several times to get in his chair. In desperation I asked irritatedly, "Do you want a spanking?"

"No, no spanking." Asher replied and climbed into his chair.

Then as I buckled his top clip, he gently pulled my head into his chest in a soft but firm embrace.
And he held me in the hug for a minute or two (an eternity for a three year old).
It was so sweet that I melted.

As I let him hug me, my irritation and negativity just washed away and

I felt whole.

I really think love is a good cure for grumpiness.

Somehow I haven't learned that in 29 years, but Asher's had it figured out since the day he was born.


Here's Asher showering his love on the Glowbug.

It Turns Out, I'm Not A Bad Mom: I Let My Babies Eat Dirt

I admit it, sometimes I let my babies put dirt or other foreign objects in their mouths.

For example, Finn crawled out of the car today and paused to put something from the car's carpet in his mouth.
What was that?, I wondered. But, I didn't have the energy to fish it out and he'd probably already swallowed it.

Here's why that's not as bad as you think.

I Guess I Don't Really Need An Appendix

I posted about the last 24 hrs at my other blog, here.

I'm Every Woman!

A Day in My Life

5:45 AM Wake up stressed about: retreat I'm planning, Cami's wedding, book club meetings, Hemophilia Association stuff, babysitting planning, dinners for friends, finding babysitters, train park today, potty training, remembering infusions, etc.

6:30 AM Give into the stress and get out of bed. Check the computer for email about the retreat I'm planning, my sister's wedding invitations I'm creating, and the dresser I'm buying from the guy on craigslist.

7:00 AM Call my dad to see if and when he can pick up a dresser.

7:05 AM Call the guy from craigslist to arrange a time.

7:10 AM Call my dad back to tell him, "The guy says if you don't pick it up by noon he'll sell it to someone else." Then I hear the craigslist guy say, "I think you want to call your dad." (OMG! How embarrassing!) And it's not even 7:30.

7:30 AM Call Cami to request a photo of her and her fiance so I can create and order their invitations from the Walgreens website (they didn't like the first draft I did last night).

7:40 AM Call Danielle to tell her I CAN watch her kids, sorry it's last minute.

7:45-8:15 AM Yell at Jaxon continuously until he gets out the door, like always when he hears the bus pull up.

8:00 AM Do infusions for Jaxon and Asher (treatment for their hemophilia).

8:30 AM Attempt to eat breakfast, change diapers, clothe and feed children.

8:45 AM Danielle brings her kids over. I am in pjs with lots of mascara under my eyes.

9:00 AM Tweeze eyebrows to perfection

9:10 AM Shower and get dressed

9:30 AM Create wedding invitations online for Cami. They will be sent to a Walgreens near her.

10:00 AM Read stories to the kids

10:05 AM Put dinner in crock-pot. (Gorditas: 4 chicken breasts (frozen ok), 1 can each black beans and corn, 1 jar salsa, add green onions and cilantro after cooking 4 hr high, 6 on low. Serve in tortillas w/ all the fixings)

10:15 AM Danielle picks up her kids

10:20 AM Pack snacks for the train park

10:50 AM Feed crying Finn in the car, take an exit too early, why can't I remember where this park is? We go all the time.

11:00 AM Arrive at the park and welcome help from Emily unloading the kids.

11:15 AM Play, snack, chat with Emily and her sister, Rachel, who each bring their own two kids.

12:10 PM Lose Asher Curtis

12:11 PM Take Asher Steed to the potty where he pees on his underwear, yes, you need to pull them down further, son.

12:15 PM Recover Asher Curtis

12:20 PM Lose Asher Steed

12:22 PM Recover Asher Steed

12:30 PM Ride the Train (attempt unsuccessfully to get a good pic of the Ashers)

12:50 PM Leave Train Park

1:00-2:45 PM NAPS!

3:00 PM Read stories and cuddle in the rocking chair with Asher and Finn.

3:15 PM Chat with Sandrine (SiL) about fitness and diet tips, also how to cook the duckling I just bought. Push Finn on the swing.

3:40 PM Jaxon arrives home from school.

3:45 PM Take Jaxon to friend Vincent's to play.

3:50 PM Push Asher and Finn in the stroller to Tuesday Morning to buy baby gift. I'm happy to be walking, it's healthful and good for the environment!

4:00 PM Continue on to Fry's to buy additional ingredients for dinner.

4:30 PM Return home and begin assembling dinner to take to Brittany who just had a baby.

4:40 PM While I'm talking to Brittany about bringing dinner, Finn gets into almost empty Nutella container in trash can and smears it all over himself. Then Asher spills his Kool-Aid at the exact moment I'm cleaning Finn. I practically hang up on Brittany.

4:45 PM Kids are hungry so Asher feeds Finn yogurt and Finn wipes it all over his face, arms, chest, hair and neck.

4:46 PM Danielle calls and says she's picking up Jaxon for soccer.

4:47 PM Call Vincent's mom to have Jaxon RUN home.

4:49 PM Jaxon returns home accompanied by Vincent and his mom who asks me for a tissue because Vincent's nose is bleeding. I notice the fridge is open, how long has it been open?

4:50 PM Jaxon resists going to soccer practice but I get him out the door with a booster seat a water bottle, oh, and his soccer shoes.

5:00 PM Grab the gift, bag, and the food (forgot the homemade jam!) for Brittany. Put kids in the car, no shoes for Finn.

5:15 PM Arrive at Brittany's house, deliver dinner, watch as my children destroy the beautiful fountain in their backyard.

5:17-5:30 PM Hold the most beautiful newborn baby I've ever seen. Seriously. That part of the day slowed down just a little bit.

5:40 PM Say goodbye to Britt and the girls, and head back to pick up Jaxon from soccer.

5:50 PM Jaxon sees me at soccer and gets a frowny face. He's disappointed because he doesn't get to go home with his friend Ethan. He tells me I'm mean.

6:00 PM Feed kids dinner. Jaxon describes it as, "The most disgusting thing you've ever made." (Let's hope Brittany didn't think that!)

6:15 PM Mark sweeps in to save the day. He is welcomed by a disastrous house and crazy kids. I retire to the office for my meal, after graciously weathering Jaxon's insults on my cooking.

6:20 PM My dad and brother come to collect Jaxon's powerwheels toy to fix it. Dad asks for the cash for the dresser, I don't have it. But, I didn't know they were coming over.

6:30 PM Baths for the sticky haired monsters, and a few chocolates for me. Why did I buy that box? Of course, they were on sale.

6:35 Talk to BFF Leslie on the phone about her drive to AJ for a shower gift. What, you're going to be late? Not you! Never!

6:40 PM Begin the Herculean (and still unfinished) task of cleaning the kitchen (pause for a quick pic of me and the kids)

6:50 PM Kiss kids goodnight while Mark reads and prays with them.

6:55 PM Leave for Cubscout Roundtable

7:00-8:30 PM Overwhelmed with Cubscout info

8:35 PM Arrive home as Mark kisses me and walks out the door to set up chairs for a RS function at the church.

8:55 PM Sit down and blog about my day.


Reflections:
1. I didn't do very well in my interactions with Jaxon today. I want to spend more time with him, especially more positive time. We need to find Zen.

2. When my kids stop napping, I am in BIG TROUBLE.

3. I don't sleep well when I'm stressed. When I don't sleep well, I'm cranky.

4. I have great friends. The best. Ever. (and that includes all of my friends and family)

Embarrassing Personal Confession #3

I am easily persuaded by reverse psychology.

Today at the gym we had a sub teacher. She's like a chinchilla on crack. Or the Energizer Bunny in fast forward.
The woman never takes a break, a breather, or a drink of water. For an hour.
It was kick-boxing, then jogging, then squats with bicep curls, then plyometrics, etc. You get the picture.
And everytime I felt myself slowing down or giving up, she would yell like a drill sergeant, "Push yourself! Get out of your comfort zone!"

And I wanted to yell back, "NO! THIS IS TOO HARD! I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN YOU PUSH ME!"

Her hour-long class seems to last for three hours.

Contrast this with the regular teacher (a young grandmother) who gives high-impact alternatives and chats happily during her workout. She encourages and I work extra hard in her class because I want to show her I can work harder. I can do more than the minimum. She doesn't push, she encourages us to listen to our bodies, and I enjoy working out in her class. The time flies by.

Lesson learned: I'm not that much different than my kids. I hate to be pushed, I like a challenge when it's presented in a considerate way.

Application: My children don't need a drill sergeant, they need a cheerleader.